Tweet Whether it’s in regards to a crush, an actual relationship or any other facet of your life, being able to tell when you’re falling into a negative spiral is the first step in not getting stuck in a very bad place. A negative spiral is a pattern of thought or behavior that is self-reinforcing… Continue reading Today’s Reminder: Avoid the Negative Spiral
Hump Day Crush: Ask Yourself Why
Tweet The important question is “Why?” Why are you interested in getting into a relationship? Why are you in a relationship now? Why do you stay in this relationship? Is it for her? Or him? Or you? Is it because “that’s just what people do?” Why do you do what you’re doing? If you can’t… Continue reading Hump Day Crush: Ask Yourself Why
Four Tools of the Trade
Tweet Once you’ve decided that you want to learn more about yourself by taking your crushes to the Grown Up Crush level, there are four major tools you’ll be using: Self Control, Imagination, Introspection and Action. Self Control Without Self Control, there’s no way other than dumb luck that you’re going to keep from falling… Continue reading Four Tools of the Trade
Unrequited is OK
Tweet Every now and then I get reminded what real Love is. And every single time I’m surprised that it’s so easy to lose sight of it. We spend so much of our lives chasing Love. We make fools of ourselves for it. We hurt ourselves and others in the name of it. We grow… Continue reading Unrequited is OK
Hump Day Crush: Half the Story
Tweet Nearly 15 years ago, right at the end of my first year of college, I met this wonderful girl. We met at a very outdoorsy community service project my service group was working on. She was a friend of a friend and had spent most of the day trudging through the underbrush on the… Continue reading Hump Day Crush: Half the Story
Hump Day Crush: 5 Questions to Ask Yourself About Yourself
Tweet The first step in taking control of your crushes and making them useful as well as fun, is getting to know yourself. By taking a few minutes and answering five questions–the first of many you’ll eventually be asking yourself as the process goes on–you can discover a little bit more about where you’re starting… Continue reading Hump Day Crush: 5 Questions to Ask Yourself About Yourself
Hump Day Crush: Personal Limits
Tweet When exploring, there are two main things you need: a starting point and a rough idea of what you’re looking to do. The starting point gives you somewhere to gauge how far you’ve gone. It gives you an anchor point and, in a worst case scenario, a port of sorts to return to. The… Continue reading Hump Day Crush: Personal Limits