What is a ‘Successful’ Crush?

Tweet One of the comments I got from last week’s tale of successfully crush revelation raised the question of what a successful crush entailed. The simple answer is this: A successful crush is one that helps you become a better person while causing as few new problems as possible. That’s it. Too often we confuse… Continue reading What is a ‘Successful’ Crush?

Failure and Success: Telling Someone About the Crush (Part II)

Tweet So I’ve talked about how to tell someone you have a crush on them and why you’d want to do that. I figure now it’s time I share a couple of stories from my own life. Just a little while ago, I told you about one that didn’t go so well. Now I’d like… Continue reading Failure and Success: Telling Someone About the Crush (Part II)

Failure and Success: Telling Someone About the Crush (Part I)

Tweet So I’ve talked about how to tell someone you have a crush on them and why you’d want to do that. I figure now it’s time I share a couple of stories from my own life. One when things went pretty darn wrong and another where they went considerably better. A Failure to Understand… Continue reading Failure and Success: Telling Someone About the Crush (Part I)

Why Speak Up

Tweet After last week’s post about how to tell someone you have a crush on them, I was met again and again with two major questions: Why not just ask them out? and Why tell them? The first I answered a while ago here. In a nutshell: dating isn’t something everyone enjoys doing. At least… Continue reading Why Speak Up

Breaking the Silence: 5 Steps to Announcing Your Crush

Tweet With International Crush Day having just passed, I hope some of you let fly with declarations of wild interest to some of your crushes. Me? I discovered that I really don’t have many actual crushes around I haven’t told about my crush on them. And those that I do have… well, they’re not quite… Continue reading Breaking the Silence: 5 Steps to Announcing Your Crush

Rules of Engagement: 5 Checks and Balances

Tweet If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years, it’s how easily I can fall back into old patterns. And my old patterns when it comes to romantic feelings are far from beneficial to me or anyone else who may be involved. I can very quickly fall into an obsessive, self-destructive crush mode. On… Continue reading Rules of Engagement: 5 Checks and Balances